This maybe one of my most semi-professional work outfits, and I kind of like that it is still very me in the sense that it is not your typical black pants and button-up. I don’t ever think I could wear something like that, I have one black high-waisted skirt, and I almost never wear it because I feel like it just isn’t me. It’s a little “too-polished”. Hell, I can’t even manage to get the wrinkles out of my dresses before I wear them; I am not one for the title “polished”.
Lately I have been thinking a lot about my personal image, and my “status” in society. It seems almost every time I sign on Facebook, or go to a family gathering, or even talk to co-workers, I feel that I am constantly being shoved into a little category. When asked about what I got my degree in, English, I am always asked if I plan on teaching someday, because an English degree couldn’t possibly be used for anything else. I hate that the fact that I bought a house and am getting married are symbols of success, rather than happiness. I bought a house because I wanted to have my own space to do what I please, to have a place to always come back to. I don’t plant on just settling down and having babies right away, I may never have kids. I don’t see anything wrong with people who do, but I hate that if you don’t do what is “next on the list” that you are not successful. People I work with find it strange that I don’t apply for management positions when they are available, it’s always “you have a degree, don’t you want to make more money?” funny thing is, the people who say this to me are managers who are completely miserable. Everyday they come into work complain about their husbands/wives/kids, and then they take high-paying jobs, that always come with more stress and responsibility, and are always mad at the world and difficult to be around. I am sure this is not the case everywhere, but I don’t see the point of adding more stress and responsibility to my job for a few extra bucks at the end of the month. I don’t LOVE my current job, but what I do does keep me busy and it is interesting enough. I like that I am a little challenged by my work everyday, and yet at the end of the day I get to just leave and enjoy the rest of my life.
I also hate when people look down on others for working in the service industry or for “just” having an online-shop for their occupation. Service industry jobs are rough, god knows I have worked several of them, some worse than others, but they are not the worst places in the world. The work itself is hard, but I always loved my co-workers at those jobs, and some of the managers as well. I went on more bowling outings, birthday parties, and after-work drinks at those jobs than I do at my current one. The hiring manager at a resale clothing store I worked at (one of my favorite jobs), told me that she loved hiring people who worked in fast-food because they always were the hardest workers. People who start an online shop to see their art, photographs, crafts, etc. It is a lot of work and it takes balls to get it going.
I have no idea where this post came from, but I guess what I am trying to say is that whatever you do, people will always expect you to do more and they will always try to measure you by your “accomplishments”. Do you don’t have to buy a house to have a home; you don’t have to earn triple digits to enjoy your job. Hell, if what you want in life is to start a family, go for it. Life may never become completely perfect, but I honestly feel that if you follow what your passions are, you will be able to enjoy it a little more. Even in a wrinkled dress :)
Song of the day "Bottom of the Barrel" By Amos Lee